http://jenzai.wordpress.com/2008/04/13/finding-acceptance/ i am that Fri, 16 Oct 2009 14:48:33 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 http://jenzai.wordpress.com/2008/04/13/finding-acceptance/#comment-13 Candace Fri, 25 Apr 2008 13:04:58 +0000 http://jenzai.wordpress.com/?p=9#comment-13 Jenny: sorry to hear the news, but as a two-time Cesarean birther (and co-author of a manual on Cesarean deliveries), I would like to reassure you that surgical births can be every bit as spiritually uplifting and meaningful and inspiring as any other variety. Of course, I never got to have a home birth, nor even a vaginal delivery, but the events were both stupendous nonetheless. At least if you have to have one it's for a real reason--a life-saving reason--rather than the essentially random opting-out that accounts for the obscene number of Cesareans in this country. My son's immense cranial capacity, which no doubt explains his vast creativity (says mom, grinning from ear to ear), exceeded my pelvic capacity by several centimeters, so I had no choice, either. I probably did with my daughter, but she was born nearly 29 years ago, before VBACs were either common or generally available. So my advice is to turn the potential into a non-issue. Shit happens. Cesareans happen. Babies are born, and they're glorious. Thank the technology for letting you the possibilities in advance, and let it go. Nurse her in the recovery room, walk your ass off after surgery, and get Patrick to haul her around for a week. After that, there's little difference at all. Jenny: sorry to hear the news, but as a two-time Cesarean birther (and co-author of a manual on Cesarean deliveries), I would like to reassure you that surgical births can be every bit as spiritually uplifting and meaningful and inspiring as any other variety. Of course, I never got to have a home birth, nor even a vaginal delivery, but the events were both stupendous nonetheless. At least if you have to have one it’s for a real reason–a life-saving reason–rather than the essentially random opting-out that accounts for the obscene number of Cesareans in this country. My son’s immense cranial capacity, which no doubt explains his vast creativity (says mom, grinning from ear to ear), exceeded my pelvic capacity by several centimeters, so I had no choice, either. I probably did with my daughter, but she was born nearly 29 years ago, before VBACs were either common or generally available. So my advice is to turn the potential into a non-issue. Shit happens. Cesareans happen. Babies are born, and they’re glorious. Thank the technology for letting you the possibilities in advance, and let it go. Nurse her in the recovery room, walk your ass off after surgery, and get Patrick to haul her around for a week. After that, there’s little difference at all.

]]> http://jenzai.wordpress.com/2008/04/13/finding-acceptance/#comment-10 Static | Oleoptene Sat, 19 Apr 2008 21:57:52 +0000 http://jenzai.wordpress.com/?p=9#comment-10 [...] the way fantasy has been popping into my life. My friend Jenny had this lovely blog post she wrote after a an ultrasound showed that she might have to have a cesaerean or at least a [...] [...] the way fantasy has been popping into my life. My friend Jenny had this lovely blog post she wrote after a an ultrasound showed that she might have to have a cesaerean or at least a [...]

]]> http://jenzai.wordpress.com/2008/04/13/finding-acceptance/#comment-8 Mara Collins Mon, 14 Apr 2008 08:03:29 +0000 http://jenzai.wordpress.com/?p=9#comment-8 What makes you my hero, though, is how you accepted the feelings you were having before acceptance came, and went through all the feelings you needed to feel. See so that's like meta-acceptance, right? You inspire me. What makes you my hero, though, is how you accepted the feelings you were having before acceptance came, and went through all the feelings you needed to feel. See so that’s like meta-acceptance, right? You inspire me.

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